If you’re planning on getting married or have already tied the knot, you’re no stranger to the superstitions surrounding matrimony. While it’s largely celebrated by all, the day is shrouded in scary folktales that warn all about the dangers of not sticking to tradition. Science, however, has debunked many of these misconceptions, and listed the following traditions as more optional than obligatory.
You can see the bride before the wedding
While we wouldn’t advise that you pop in to see the beautiful bride, you really have nothing to lose if you happen to see her by chance before the ceremony. Because weddings were pretty much business deals back in the day, the bride’s father feared that if the groom were to see his wife-to-be and she wasn’t beautiful enough, he would get cold feet and not invest. Thankfully, love is the biggest investment that goes into a wedding, so nothing bad can happen on the day.
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No, you don’t have to wear white on the day
Although religious people believed purity, innocence and virginity were symbolized by a white wedding gown, this wasn’t the case when it was first worn by Queen Victoria. In fact, when she wore it she did so to convey wealth. In those days brides only wore whatever gown they had in the wardrobe, and didn’t have money to buy a once-off gown. However, as times went on, people attached spiritual connotations to it.
Just because you caught the bouquet doesn’t mean you’re lucky
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Just like football may induce riotous behaviour in men, so does the throwing of the bouquet for women. This is because the occasion is attached to good luck for the one who catches the flowers, when in actual fact this serves as a distraction for the bride. Historically, the bride would be subjected to arguably abusive and humiliating acts by her husband. This included her dress being torn off in public and being carried off to a private room where she’d consummate her “love”. As such, she would throw the flowers to distract herself – not so great now that you think about it, huh.
It’s okay if she falls when she steps into her marital home
Apart from possibility of the bride breaking her leg or nose if she were to trip over the threshold, there isn’t really any other bad luck that will befall the couple. The tradition of carrying the bride had mostly to do with avoiding the lady from tripping, which people of yesteryear believed would bring bad luck to the house. However, the only bad luck we can think of is the anger she would feel when she realized you were busy staring at your phone instead of catching her from falling.
Your dad doesn’t have to hand you over if you don’t want
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While you may think it’s cute for your dad to hand you over to the groom, it’s pretty much him saying you’re no longer his property and are now the groom’s problem. Yes, historically brides were handed over as the final stage of the business agreement. So there is nothing symbolic about being handed over. If you feel independent enough, you can walk down the aisle by your lonesome and get hitched without any contractual obligations.
Even though some of these traditions may be shrouded in scandals, they have shaped how we view tying the knot. As someone planning to say “I do” on the day, however, don’t concern yourself too much with these traditions. Try to concentrate on the blissfully wedded life that awaits when you get married to the person of your dreams, and make up your own traditions if you want – because nothing bad can happen, or can it?