If you’re planning a same sex wedding, there are some common questions that may have crossed your mind. Here are some of the answers you’ve been looking for, as well as fun and creative ideas that will help you choose decorations and wedding favors.
Should you change your name?
First, it’s important to consider that not all same sex couples choose to change their names after a wedding. If you do want to change your name, give some thought to different ways to do so. For example, it might be as simple as sharing the name you both prefer, or you might hyphenate your last name to incorporate both of your names. However, you are also free to pick an entirely new name! Some people also legally change their names but keep their former last names in practice.
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If you’re like the majority of couples, you’ll be looking for a venue with a clearly welcoming attitude towards same sex weddings. If you have friends or acquaintances who have already organized same sex weddings then you can get some promising leads from them. However, you’ll also find lists of good vendors on websites, so be sure to check out online recommendations.
What should you call the wedding party?
If you don’t like the traditional roles of bridesmaids and groomsmen, feel free to call the members of your wedding party whatever you like. You might opt for the gender-neutral “honor attendants” but you can also choose something sillier or more sentimental.
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How should you deal with unsupportive family members?
Although one recent study found that over 60% of couples have the emotional support of both parents, you may have family members who are still not too sure about the idea of a same sex wedding. If someone is unreasonably opposed to your union, you may want to consider simply not inviting them. However, there are some people who will change their perspective after a frank discussion. It’s also worth considering that a family member may just dislike your partner, not the idea of a gay wedding.
Fun decorating ideas
There’s lots of scope to use your imagination when it comes to planning your wedding, so consider the following tips:
Be creative and personal when it comes to wedding favors. For example, consider beautiful candles, photo frames and bubble wands. Check out some of the examples at Bedbathandbeyond.com for some great inspiration.
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Remember that two brides can both have bouquets, and that each bride can throw the bouquet. It can be fun to have matching bouquets, but you may be able to design two different arrangements that reflect something significant in your relationship. A florist can advise you on the meanings of different colors and types of flowers.
Joni Whitman has extensive experience as a wedding planner. She enjoys looking for ways to inject more fun into weddings. Her articles mainly appear on lifestyle blogs.